Who to avoid in 2019...Part I

..the person who is embarrassed about their decisions and then tries to make other's think you are in the same bad situations that they are in. They try to bring you down to the level they believe they are on, rather than making better decisions about their life.  

...that one who discredits anything serious and direct that you say, but will make sure to try to do or repeat something you say off the cuff. Tell them that Jesus Christ saves and heals and they refuse to believe it. Tell them to jump off a bridge and they will try to tell your friends that you suggested they kill themselves or they will go looking for a bridge to jump off (yes, an exaggeration, but you know what I mean). Ask them to meet and pray every weekend. They will refuse. Tell them to stop coming with that attitude, so they stop coming and tells everyone that you told them to stop coming. Narcissistic. Fake martyrs. Dramatic.  

...that person who won't let you talk...AND IF they ask you a question or you jump in during a pause, they immediately have to put you on hold or something distracts them so that they don't "hear" anything you say and have the nerve to ask you to repeat it. UGH!  Look, I was taught that the devil always tells you who he is. They are telling you that they control the relationship - whatever kind it is - and that you should just sit there like a dog and worship them.  Believe them. Avoid them, if you can. If you can, show no interest in them...in as polite a way as possible. If you can't avoid them, then let them talk. They can't help themselves.  They don't know. Let it go.   

...that one who is nice to you alone, but in the group, they huddle with others, act like they dread you, don't want to hear you, whisper/make faces if you say something, etc.  Get them out of your life. Period. Two-faced. Double-minded. Can't stand up to others if others are insisting that they treat you that way.  Possibly ill, mentally, which is beyond their control, but doesn't make it easier for you to deal with.  Seek your peace and pray that God connects them with whoever can help them.

...pseudo invitations, which goes along with the person who likes you in private but dislikes you in public. They will inform you of plans as if the plans include you (this includes Significant others and spouses or relatives). When you arrive, they bow to others at the gathering. If others approve of you, your "date" is okay (maybe).  If others do not approve of you, your "date" pretends they didn't invite you and that you invited yourself. I've seen this, been this and even witnessed it in church situations (ex: Male minister arrives and is invited to a particular section, but  wife/daughter/mother minister is not invited with him. 

...church people who invite you or yours to make a presentation, then say they have someone else to do present...every time. Weird. Messy. Strange. 

...the one who changes the atmosphere, for the worse. You have a great time. The next time you hear of the encounter,  mutual acquaintances suddenly dislike you. Hmmm. Who turned the tables on you so quickly? The snake with whom you thought you had a good encounter. Once you figure this out, remove yourself from the relationship. I had several experiences like that with  a particular person. If I said someone had on cute shoes, the next time I saw that person, they hated me...because snake told them that I "talked about what they were wearing" and mixed it with her evil, spiteful spirit, so the person would be angry with me. Ugh!  I am so tired of messy folk.   
 
...that ONE who disputes everything you say. If you say the sky is blue, they will google to see if the actual color is blue. If you say, they did a great job on the project, they will get angry and argue with you. YOU are the problem. Deal with it.  Move on. Find nicer people to hang with. 

...the Significant Other who has spent so much time trying to hide from you, even in matters you don't even care about. Frankly, they did you a favor because you didn't like them either - lol! - and that their absences gave you time to do what you were called to do and hang out with who you wanted to hang out with. Do not blame yourself. People have their own reasons for being who they are.  James 1:5. They were weird before they met you - lol! 


This is long, so Part II will be continued in January 2019.

THE only reason I write about this is that we are so apt to give people another chance (over and over again), feel like we must be nice (especially if it's a relative, work leader, church member, etc), think we have no where else to "go", find it inconvenient to go somewhere else or find a new circle, fear of the unknown (which is not better than the presently negative known).


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