It's November.  By now, most weddings have occurred, mainly between June and the first week in October.  So, now, comes the seasons and times that marriage proposals are made - Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year's Eve, New Year's Day and Valentines Day.

Men, I doubt that there is, every has been or ever will be a woman who is praying for a husband who will make her be quiet, not allow her to speak, refuse to receive her input on family and business matters, and will just be expected to shut up, cook, clean, launder and open up...and, if she works, give up her money and have to ask permission to spend it AND to actually go anywhere outside the house.  Yes, some women are so disliking of themselves that once they realize they have connected with that kind of man, they put up with it because they think they deserve it.  Yet, I doubt if they pray for a man who they desire will treat  them like they are less than human, treat the dog better, allow the dog to leave the house without permission and to have a treat every now and then and to communicate its' needs, but not the woman in the relationship.  

And don't use the Bible to justify the treatment of the woman as less than a person.  How dare a Black man, -  and men of any other race/nationality who descended from people who were enslaved, oppressed, imprisoned for their origins, etc - get free from oppression then use the lessons they learned when being oppressed to then, oppress women?  How dare you?

Need I say more?  

Okay, I will.

Reread the second paragraph. 

If you are not moved to reconsider your ways, and will side with the man who treats your daughters and granddaughters that way, then you have a problem,   a spiritual (mental) problem. For, who on this earth believes that he was given a personal relationship just for his own personal pleasure of mistreating, demeaning, and bullying the significant other.  What do you say at the end of the day?  "Thank You, Lord (or whatever you call them) for giving me my own little woman to treat like crap.  Amen." Is that what you pray?  See,  I told you.  You are crazy.  Mental.  Spiritually sick.   You know it.  That is why you do it at home, under cover, not in public, although I've  eye-witnessed a couple of crazy men mistreating their significant other in public. 

 

Women, our mere presence changes the atmosphere.  Our entrance into a room/an office/a church/a family, especially if we are the first one, changes the atmosphere. Minds, hearts and bodies begin to scramble "for the right place to stand".                                                                                                                                

               Stand - an attitude toward a particular issue; a position taken in an argument. 
  
synonyms:attitude, stance, point of view, viewpoint, opinion, way of thinking, outlook, standpoint, position, approach, thinking, policy, line



In areas of the church/business/health/emergency services/non-profit/government/etc, women are still making firsts...sadly, because all parts of the country and the world AND women are not in step with the (more/most ?) progressive areas.  

When we enter the room, things change.  Others present either decide to accept us or reject us.  Much like a new baby or new member in a family has others wondering if they will do better for the sake of/to impress/to give good light on the family or will they think themselves already good enough and rightly centered in the way they live or present themselves or will they continue to do those things that may not be conducive to impressing or giving good light or encouraging the new member or will they decide to reject the new member openly or quietly.

Women cause the same reactions.  

Will we accept her as the first doctor in this practice, service member in this fire department, realtor in this office, minister in this church, lineman on this crew?
The accepting ones may consider those who they know will reject her and how he will deal with those who reject her?  Will he speak with them, try to win them over? Will he try to get them to just concede and work with the process?  Will he encourage her...aloud or privately...against the naysayers?
Who will not accept her and who will be their cohorts?  Who will they have to fight that don't agree with their rejection of her?  Will they decide to openly or privately express their rejection? Will they be willing to draw discipline for their rejection of her?  How will they work this out with the women in their own family, i.e., will they increase their conversation with family about disagreeing with women in that particular area OR will they hide their open/quiet rejection of the woman at work/church?

See, all these things go on when a woman enters the room.

It's also like a bully/bullied situation.  Others have to decide how they will react to the bully and the one being bullied.  Join in.  Hide. Stand up for the bullied. Stand up to the bully. Become and remain silent hoping to not be a target and hoping the bully will stop.

When a woman enters the room, her presence changes the atmosphere.