they exclude you completely but pout when you exclude them.



​...the person who gets angry at you for telling them to stop coming to someone's rescue, THEN they try to make other's think they rescued you, too, knowing that you have never asked or tried to use them for anything.  They try to bring you down to the level of the person they are being used by, so that others will think you are just as petty as the true user.  Rather than changing, they would rather stay down and bring you down with them.  ...

People who discredit anything serious and direct that you say, but will adamantly try to do or repeat something you say off the cuff.  Say, "Do better" and they will rebuke you. Say, "Go jump off a bridge" and they will get up a campaign to tell everybody that you tried to MAKE them kill themselves or they will go looking for a bridge to jump from.  Say, "Let's meet and pray weekly" and they will refuse.  Say, "Don't come in this door with an attitude again" so they stop coming and tells everyone that you told them to stop coming. I get angry just typing it in. Fickle, silly, froward, obtuse people. 

People​ who won't let you talk. And IF they ask you a question, they immediately have to put you on hold or something distracts them so they don't hear anything you say and have the nerve to ask you to repeat it.  Look, I was taught that the devil always tells you who he is. They are telling you that they control the relationship - whatever kind it is - and that you should just sit there like a dog and worship them.   Believe them. Avoid them, if you can. If you can, show no interest in them...in as polite a way as possible.  They don't want you around.  Their actions tell you that.  Believe them.  Be free, and I mean FREE, to find people who treat you as an equal.  ESPECIALLY when, individually they are nice to you, but in the group, they act like they dread you, don't want to hear you, whisper/make faces every time you say something, can't even pretend to be civil at all

lady Things to avoid in 2019:

Pseudo invitations- The SO or "friend" will inform you of plans as if the plans include you. When you arrive, they bow to others at the gathering, meaning that if their friends like you, they say they invited you.  If their friends hate you, they say they didn't invite you, they just told you about them planning to go and that you invited yourself. 
 
Messy churches.  There was a congregation who invited my husband to speak several times.  Every time we arrived, they said they had asked someone else to speak but since my husband was there, they would let him speak.  I also knew a church leader who would operate that way.  Messy. Unorganized. Wanted people to beg their way in.  

People who dispute everything you say.  If you say the sky is blue, they will google to see if the actual color is blue. If you say they did a great job on the project, they will argue with you. Tell them you are enjoying your job?  Their response is "Oh, so they have you rnning the place now?" YOU are the problem. Deal with it.  Move on. Find nicer people to hang with. 

They will  convince relatives and old friends to dislike you.  Well, that person may be someone you need to keep near by because if they can cause people who've known and "loved" you to be convinced that you're not worth loving, that tells you something about those people.  They either never cared for you OR were looking for a reason to not care for you OR so gullible that they were easily led astray from their affections for you by someone new who they had not known nearly as long as they've known you.  Free yourself.  Move one.  You don't have to start a fight, be confrontational or perhaps never speak to them again.  Just free yourself to do other things and be amongst other less easily moved people in your future social fellowship opportunities.

That significant person who has spent so much time trying to hide from you. Sneak;ed out to go enjoy themselves or do ministry? Tell them they did you a favor because you didn't like them either, anyway, and it gave you time to do what you were called to do and hang out with who you wanted to hang out with.  Tell them they did you a favor leaving you behind, hiding from you, etc.

People who take things literally, perhaps because they are so in need of attention.  Why isn't he where he's supposed to be? "Oh, because he's a "social butterfly".  Well, Social Butterfly takes that to heart instead of deducing or surmising that he should be where he is supposed to be.  So, he makes himself more of a "social butterfly" by intentionally being out of place, flitting around talking and socializing instead of being where he's supposed to be.  People like that, be compassionate, be prayerful, be intentional in trying to lead or influence them, but also be careful.  

The liar.  Don't necessarily avoid this person.  There are some people we have to deal with.  They may not necessarilly be in our "circle", but because of who they are, we have to deal with them.  You need that liar.  That liar will tell lies on you just because.  They will watch everything you do, just to tell lies about it.  The hard part is, the people they tell the lies to, believe the lies.  The liar is going to tell the lie to people you like or who you thought liked you.  The caveat here, is that they will believe the lies.  You wouldn't even know about the lies, unless they believed them and started treating you funny or not treating you at all.   It's hard to find out the people who know you well, long and intimately, but will automatically be decieved by The Liar.  You need to know that.  You need to know those that labor among you.  You need to know, no matter how much it surprises you or how bad it hurts you, that those particular people are so willing to believe whatever The Liar tells them.  Those people can go.  The Liar can and probably will stay.  The Liar will help you live your life more specifically even if it's just to stay so high that The Liar 'aka' snake can't breath or breed (Snakes don't like heights, right?)

The one who changes the atmosphere, for the worse.  You go in with them and have a great time, go home and mind your business.  The next time you go in with them, everyone in the room hates you and constantly checks with the other person (via word, eyes or facial expressions) to see if and when it's okay to have anything to do with you.  Hmmm.  Who turned the tables so quickly?  It doesn't matter.  Don't go there anymore or hang with that person who somehow had to make sure that the people in the room no longer liked you or like them more than you.  Let them have it. Find someone else to socialize or fellowship wtih.  
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People who act like everything I say is stupid then they are doing it the next time I see them.

You can tell that they are arguing with you in their mind, but you haven't said a word about their life.  How can they be mad at you about nothing you've said.  Their conviction comes from within, not from without.  Kick them to the curb.

That person who won't do the good advice, but if you say something stupid, they will do it for the rest of their life reminding you that "that's what you said for me to do".  ARGH!!!!! Get rid of them!

That person that needs you  and others to be under their control.  You can't talk to or speak to or react to anything or anybody in a particular setting unless you look at them to get their approval or assign you a reaction to have.  They're not running anything except you and whoever is weak enough to need somone else to tell them how to think and feel about things.