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Stop burying the bodies and hiding the wounded.
Deal with the ones who are spiritually and emotionally k*ll*ng and wounding people, instead of 'hiding the bodies' - moving the wounded from place to place, department transfers, title changes and moves, reassignments, firing, etc - then pretending nothing happened or it's not your fault. Employers; family leaders; political leaders - locally, nationally and globally; organization leaders; religious leaders; medical leaders - physicians, researchers, the medical community at-large; departments of justice, mental/behavioral health oversight organizations - psychiatry, psychology.... If we act ugly when dealing with someone else, wishing them away is not the answer. The answer is live holy - I Peter 1:16 love - I John 13 34 A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. 35 By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another. follow peace - Hebrews 12 14 Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord: 15 Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;)
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Do you have something spiritual that you won't help others get for themselves? You sit back and watch them struggle and act like they are the problem. You got it. It helps you, tremendously, to live life. You know how to get it. Why won't you help others get it? #familyblacksheep
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Example of a need for setting and enforcing huge boundaries when God says "Times up": A friend, acquaintance, or relative steals lawn equipment from our shed or makeup from our bedroom. We know it, yet we fellowship with them, anyway. We find out they're sharing with their friends what they've stolen from us. Still, when they and their friends visit, we fellowship with them knowing they and their friends use our items in front of us - the lawn equipment at the house across the street and next door or wearing makeup while they sit in our house! Set and enforce boundaries! Use these examples to plug in the people, what they take from you (in the place of lawn equipment, makeup), and how you give or deal with them anyway, knowing they've taken things from you. Set and enforce boundaries! Some will say they will freely invite people to continue to be around them out of the love of Christ. Yes, walk in the love of Christ. Let a known thief and a pickpocket watch your purse or wallet? I bet you would not. Allow the one who stole from you many times to sit your home or clean your storage areas? Sure. Go ahead. Eventually, you WILL set boundaries after you, your staff and your family have been violated by disrespectful people many times. Even if we keep them around in order to have a chance to lead them to Christ, guess what? We're going to say or think something, either to them or about them, to the effect of "I hope you/he/she will stop stealing, disrespecting, dodging me now." Come on. Yes, you will. Set and enforce boundaries! Illustrations from www.freekpik.com Books and Jewelry on www.etsy.com/shop/becmin |
My husband has played chess since he was a kid living in the Bronx. He was and still is very good at chess.
For years he had a chess board in every room of his and then our living spaces and in the trunk of his car, always prepared to play a game with a friend or stranger. He's always stated his goal to train others so well that they beat him at the game. He has truly meant it.
When we teach, parent, disciple, or mentor people to be better, stronger, wiser, and more knowledgeable, what is our reaction when they get the lessons and use all that on us? Are we/AM I/Are you glad or offended? We should be glad because they've learned and are bold enough to stand for themselves and in what they've gained, even when they disagree with or have come into better knowledge or wisdom on a subject, act or personal decision.
Our reaction to them walking in light we've taught, brought, modeled or facilitated, will indeed clarify our motivations for leading them.
Let's not have the superior attitude that "I taught you. You can use it on others, but you can't use it on me". Hmmm...♟♟♟
July 3, 2024 10:17pm
Have you dealt with numerous transitions of leadership?
Have you dealt with numerous transitions of leadership? In any one place - over days, weeks, months, or years - in any are of your life? Transitions that were completely out of your control? Have you been the victim of numerous leadership changes or additions to levels of leaders? Are you tired of it?
On the job, transitions come through new leads, supervisors, assistant managers, managers, and other positions on the organizational chart.
In your immediate or extended family, has there been another new step/foster/adoptive parent, grandparent or significant other who, by nature of the relationship title, automatically steps into a leadership role in the family?
Housing: A new landlord every six months-to-a-year, especially these days when investors buy properties, hold them for six months to a year, then re-sell them for a profit. I had a friend who ended up not knowing who to send payments to because owners changed and payments were due while changes-in-ownership paperwork were still in process, to the point that neither the previous nor future owners were cleared to take payments.
Community, Churches, Religious organizations: Politicians don’t change during their term very often, so this one might not be relevant for constituents but could be relevant for employees of the office of the political role. Pastors changing frequently leaves churches dealing with a balancing act of values and memberships.
School Students: Replacement mid-semester/term of a professor who teaches a series of courses - example Church History I, II, and III – so there is not the continuity of pedagogy, upsetting the flow of the students who have completed perhaps I and II, looking forward to the same Prof for III. Teachers/Administration: turnover of Superintendents, Administrators, Directors, Department Leaders, Student Activities, and/or Athletics.
Numerous transitions in leadership, whether the change or addition of leaders, must be dealt with by each individual under the leader. The mind, body and soul of each individual needs to adjust to the new personality, new rules, new issues, new like-ability, new dislike, new tasks, new demotions, re-mix of responsibilities dished out by new leaders, etc.
The revolving door of people leads to evolving or devolving, emotions, mindsets, issues, blessings or aggravations.
With each new leader, those under or subject to the NEW go through a range of emotions, AGAIN, that end on a high note or a low note. Notes high or low, over time and many leadership changes, can lead to transition fatigue. Although people can start with a smile and excitement and deftly maneuver each feeling related to the expressions in the illustration below; eventually, with numerous new or additional leaders (revolving door, high turnover), the initial expression can skip the smile, go straight to the frown with hands on the hips or the ‘what is going on’ expression, and land on and remain on the third “I can’t take these changes anymore” expression in regard to each new person who comes through the door or is pushed or runs out the door.
Fix the root of the problem so the revolving door is not utilized often; solid, long-term policies, duties and relationships can be established; and victory will win over defeat.
Scripture references:
The Kings of Israel and Judah
I Samuel, II Samuel
I Kings, II Kings
I Chronicles, II Chronicles
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