Start Right. Foundations Matter.

​If you don't start a relationship right and with honesty, it may never 'get right'. 

I knew an adult who was really interested in someone much younger, which was not a big deal, because they both were adults. Apparently, he was feeling uncomfortable, which I guess is a good thing.  Some are not uncomfortable in a relationsihp with a 10 year age gap.  The person presented themself as a potential  business partner and trainer of the person he was intersted in.  (It was obvious to me that one liked the other but I didn't speak of it to either party. )

This "relationship' dragged out for years. It never evolved into what he wanted to begin with because he wasn't brave enough to be honest. The 'friendship' eventually dissolved in a hurtful way to the other party. 

Who's to says the relationship would have blossomed had the initiating partner been honest and just asked the other person out? Whether it worked out or not, it would have been an honest foundation to build on or to decide how to not build on it as in be friends, enemies, or nothing at all.

Both limped their separate ways uncomfortable in the smallest of interactions because they didn't start right and even ending it all still reeks of uncomfortableness. I don't see them as often as I would like. Both are great people. Both are successful in their own right, but have an awkwardness that could have been avoided had they began on the right foundation of honesty.

(On the flip side, I've dealt with people who approached me - nice or nasty - because they thought I was one or two decades younger than I was and they had the notion to reign over me or boss me around or condescend to me.  Depending on the length of our interactions, many times when I realized someone thought I was younger,  I had to determine when and how to tell them my age. When I did, in some instances people either got angry because they felt deceived although THEY ASSUMED my age and their superiority over me, apologetic because they had a clean heart and intentions, or just deserted me in the process because they couldn't switch from treating me as being  in some way 'beneath' them  to treating me like an equal or older-than-them (lol) adult.   (I don't have those issues now that I'm in decade 6. ) 

The point is:

Start with honesty if it's a potential love relationship and without arrogance, condescencion,  or a superiority complex if it is any other kind of potential relationship/partnership and don't ASSUME anything. 

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