HAPPY VALENTINES...daily

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​No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies you the right to grow. ~ Alice Walker  
If they openly or clandestinely try to stop your advancement in life, then they are not your friend.  A true lover, parent, acquaintance or leader will not try to stop you from growing emotionally, spiritually, intellectually or financially.  Even if they don't agree with your (legal, non-harmful) methods, they will leave you alone to discover your path, rather than try to stop you.  Who has time to stop someone from being who they want to be?  A person who has too much time on their hands, need to be handling their own business, or wants you to fail.

Equality in relationships - My husband and I have not had five arguments over money in all our years of marriage.  We understand that what DOES NOT equal power of one over the other, such as: Money, Oldest in age, level of education, gender, physical appearance, physical abilities, spiritual "age", title or level, denomination in which one worships or was raised, spiritual gifts, career, or level of employment compensation.  Jesus made us all equal.  Think as Jesus thinks.

​Be aware of these alarms when seeking a new love relationship: 
- requesting money or gifts too soon into the relationship - money can corrupt a  
   relationship in that the person will only be interested in the money that you give;
- requesting to move in soon into the relationship;
- requesting sex very early;
- moving items into your home one at a time; 
- only late night visits, with the expectation of staying over since they arrived so late;
- desiring to move very fast (love, sex, marriage) without giving you information about        
   themselves (they could be hiding a bad life, but want to trap you into a marriage before you 
   discover their past);
- lack of boundaries, such as knowing when to end a date or phone conversation.  Some people 
   want to get your mind, rather than your heart.  If they need to stay and stay and stay or talk 
   and talk and talk, disregarding normal boundaries (1-2 hour phone conversations, 4-5 hour 
   dates, etc)
- acting super spiritual because they know that you are a church person - if they have to MAKE  
  (rather than LET) their light shine, they may not have a light.
Remember, Jesus knocks.  He doesn't barge in with falsities, embellishments and demands.  Jesus draws with lovingkindness.  He doesn't demand our love because He wants it to b genuine, not forced/faked.  

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Help others to listen to the woman in your life. Don't be so insecure that you can't give your lady credit for being smart outside the home, in spiritual matters and in issues besides homemaking and parenting.

       Luke 1 - KJV and EXB The Lord told Zechariah that his child's name would be John.
       When the kinfolk arrived to circumcise the child, Elizabeth told them his name
       would be John. They ignored Elizabeth. They dismissed the woman's knowledge.
       They made faces and gestures towards the husband about the woman's words.
       The husband let them know that she was correct in naming the child John. From
       the beginning, women have been dismissed, reduced, ignored and/or laughed at.
       The world needs to learn to believe the woman first, without needing to check with
        a man to see if the woman knows what she's talking about.

​Beware of those who try to provoke you, so that you will end the relationship, and they can blame it on you.  No matter whether the relationship is a friendship, eros love, church leader/subordinate, work leader/employee, or even a family relationship.  Some, feeling guilty, will try to provoke you, so that you look like the guilty one and they can blame the parting-of-the-ways on YOU!

Stop asking everyone else what she wants.  Ask her what she wants. 

Mothers, teach your sons, all ages, how to communicate with you when you have a conflict with them.  In teaching them how to communicate well with you, you will teach them how to communicate well with their significant other. 
Mom, when you're mad about anything, your son can wash the dishes and make you happy.  But, when they get married, and there is a problem in the relationship, no matter how many dishes they wash, floors they sweep or trash they take out, none of that will matter, if those things are not the issue in the relationship.  Worse, you may relate to your son in the way that you don't even allow him to speak or do anything to fix whatever you're upset about with him.  So, he grows up to get quiet when his significant other needs him to speak about whatever issue they have.  All of these "communication" reactions leave issues poorly handled, which could lead to separation.
Moms, significant others need communication about the issue at hand.  Teach your sons to communicate when they think become aware of a problem in any kind of relationship.  Flowers, candy, cleaning, silence, or hiding may not always be enough.

 

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