Bits N Pieces - Cleaning out my 2020 Samsung Notes

​December, 2020
We can spend our life tip-toeing around this one or that one, but, at some point, this one or that one has to get over or deal with their reactions to you/me/us and what we do, just like we have to do with them and others and stop expecting everyone to tip-toe around our issues.  
Yes, we can think 'You don't try to keep your issues off me, so I'm going to stop trying to keep my issues off you', but that's not going to work.
We should all seek healing/help, and act right towards people regardless of our inner issues, because if I (and we all) start tip-toeing around you and you and you and them and them and them, I would be highly dysfunctional and 'tripping' around - physically and in my mind and spirit - like I'm playing  the Twister game. No!


November, 2020
You worked hard to make her dumb, deaf, blind and stupid. Now, you're mad at her because she is or is acting dumb, deaf, blind and stupid.  Why are you made?  You set out to accomplish that goal.  You accomplished it. So why aren't you happy?  Now, you have to do everything, make every decision, fix every problem, come up with every suggestion. Why? Because you either dummied her or she fakes being dumb (this one) just to appease you or vex you. When you dummy people down or shut them up, YOU have to do all the work, now!  It's your own fault.


September 15, 2020
A friend who started a business traveling the world teaching praise dance and all that goes with that spiritual gifting/calling,  taught us a principle about business and ministry.  She noted how patriarchy in the churches find some reason to 'sit down' a woman or a choir (mostly women) but rarely sit another male down. This was years ago when women took that type of overbearing unequal mess. If you are old enough you remember a woman being told she can't usher today or be on a program somewhere else because they heard she left a dish in the sink or her kids clothes never looked clean enough, so she couldn't do something for the Lord until she perfected her life...yada yada yada, while men ran around doing whatever they wanted but held and worked in positions in the church no matter what.  Anyway, my friend said to make your calling your business/non-profit/profit, so that no one can 'sit you down' from it. Who has the right to tell you that you can't 'go to work', 'can't run your business', right? If you owned a candy store or worked in an office or factory, your leader couldn't tell you you're not allowed to go to work because you've been a 'bad Christian' that week, right? She knew this because her business was a powerful niche and people were jealous. So there was a time when she made errors, as we all do, that someone tried to 'sit her down' and was not successful because it was her JOB. I told my husband the same thing - that he didn't have to ask a new leader for permission to continue running his non-profit business. Bam! Boop! Pow!
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Sept 6, 2020
Doers, Donors, Door Openers.

August 28, 2020 
(Disclaimer: I don't remember this one, but I wrote it down so it must apply to somebody. )
He said that! "When a woman in the spotlight puts her man in the spotlight who has not been in the spotlight before, he starts talking to the woman like he's crazy."
(If I remember exactly why I noted his statement, I will edit this post.  The only example of this that I can think of could be situations where the woman has been attending church all her life, saved, taking the kids to church. Then, the man gets saved and really gets saved like  he said he was when they got married)  and suddenly, he takes over trying to tell the wife and kids how to be saved even though they've been in church and saved since they were all kids, including the wife. So suddenly they are expected to go back to salvation kindergarten so the newly saved man can teach them how to be what they've been for years.)


Aug 24, 2020
I saw some things that led to this rant...post. 
A good man won't 
- (as I witnessed on many occasions) block his wife and who she's speaking to just to make her push past him to continue the converstaion, when in any other situation, he would politely and courteously step aside or go around any other woman or person who's having a conversation after church. She didn't even realize he did that purposely. No, he wasn't in such deep conversations that he didn't notice her. I saw his face each time.  He enjoyed blocking her just to be messy.
- block her from giving her message, that he assigned her to give on particular days, by singing a song and shouting around the church for at least 35 minutes, so she has less time or no time to bring the message he assigned her to bring...especially on the women's day services. But, she went on anyway despising the blocking, Praise God.
- won't side-eye husbands to make sure they notice his tactics so they will be encouraged to treat...mis-treat...knock back their wives the same way.


August 21, 2020 
Treat everyone right.  You grin at shackers at work, knowing they're shacking, but turn your nose up at shackers in your family, church, and neighborhood.  Why so nice in the workplace to people you think are sinners or who claim Christ but openly act the opposite towards he same labeled people you are up close to? Perhaps we are at ease rejecting close-by sinners to their face because we know they will keep on keeping on with a smile or nod, whereas we are so kind to sinners we think are off limits, may stop to listen (which may frighten us) or won't kindly take our negativity towards them. Hmmm. Be nice to all, listen, answer or respect their choice to not listen at that time, and keep the nasty comments and turned up noses to yourself.  

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