(Off the cuff)...

Some have the burden of being expected to fulfill the ideas of someone else's desires.

They want you to be an accountant, lawyer, mechanic, flight attendant, usher, tour guide, trustee, doctor, professor, plumber, or politician. Why? Because they are, their Mom was, or the neighbors need to be impressed. 

You have other plans. You have knowledge that your path is supposed to be different. Pressure. Issues. Arguments. Fights. Frustrations. 

You may even know they're right about your future, but you want to get there by the route prepared specifically for you. You may agree, but don't want to hear "I told you so" once you understand they are right. You certainly do not want to deal with them taking off at the speed of lightning giving you instructions on how to get where you both agreed you're supposed to go/be/do. 

The problem? You feel/believe/KNOW that if you allow them to drag/drive you NOW, they will be dragging/driving you for the rest of your life! They'll think everything they think you should do is right since they were right about that one thing!  When do you get to breathe? When do you get to live without them breathing down your neck about it? People are so determined to make their life your life...and do it their way...that even if you agree, you dread the coming 'ride'!

There's also the self-imposed guilt. You care. You go and do their desires for you because you don't want them to be hurt or disappointed, and all the while going, you're trying to figure out how to 'cut through the bushes' and get off the track to have a moment to yourself and your own thoughts.


The solution:  

Be honest with God. Be determined to do things God's way, no matter what happens. If you're hated, uninvited, constantly reminded that you 'are going the wrong way', be determined to go alone without their encouragement, money, support, presence, time, etc.

When we DETERMINE to do things God's way, God comes ready to work with us. 

WHAT IF God agrees with them about you going the route in life that follows their route? You'll accept it because you've already determined and concluded that you will follow God. God will be there to take you on the route and will inform others that he, not they, chose the route (even if it's the same as theirs) because God is not going to let them take credit for you being who you're supposed to be.  God will be there to block/run interference for you, fight them in a way that keeps you out of the hot seat, back you up with what you told them God told you to do, and make them apologize to you for being wrong about the whole thing or about little things they disagree with along your path that God is taking you.

Determine you will go God's way. Period! Be willing to take the rejection and the angry arrows. You'll get the blessings and those trying to mold you into what they want will fail and will know they failed and won't be blaming you because they will know God led you.

I remember someone telling the story about how he tried to tell his little boy what to do on the football field. His son said to him, "I have a coach." Parents would yell instructions at their kids during the games, practices or at home when studying their sport.  The coaches were frustrated.  Kids were trying to figure out who to obey, even as they played on the field and heard their parents' voices giving instructions. That little boy's coach (and I'm sure many others, as well) taught his team of little players,  
"Listen to me. Tell your parents you have a coach."

Son, Daughter, Person - Whether you are called to do something different from everyone else or from what is expected or if called to do the same thing, those who have gone before and think they get a say in your future profession, first remember to LISTEN TO THE COACH aka GOD.